Dear friends ;

Bismillahirahmanirahim..

Friends are sumone that we spend our time with. Its a relationship that everybody have. Generally, there are two ways of becoming friends. Its either either you have to or you want to. Its a transition process.. I'll explain later. Now,
1. the way of 'you have to':
This is usually occur when we are lone ranger in a new community. There, we start to adapt ourselves by finding friends, making us acceptable and not the weirdo that got no friends. For example, when we registered to a new school, during registration period, we will get to know many people and from there, we made friends. There is a benefit gained from that relationship. :)
2. the way of 'you want to':
With this way, you, yourself volunteer to approach a person just because you really want to get to know them. There are no benefits you can get from that relationship except a  pure friendship. To be exact, you saw  a person who have the same hobby as yours. You are so excited that you approach her. Logically, it wont affect you if you know her or not. But, knowing that person convey the same interest as yours, its not bad to give it a try. A non profit relationship. A friendship. :)

Life is too complex. Same goes to friendship. Its a transition process. I am not bluffing, as me, myself and I are undergoing this process. Lets think about it. It can be you get to know someone via the first method. As time goes by, your friendship had turned into the second method. You really like her for herself. She helped you a lot, cared about you and the type that always want the friendship lasts untill at jannah. Same may see them as lame, but this is the type we appreciate. Well, friends look for each other, right? :)

Nevertheless, there are some conditions when you get to know someone with the 2nd method. Presume that that person have the same way of thinking as yours. Unfortunately, as you get to know them, you expectations failed. You get annoyed with them to the point that you, yourself cant stand them. However, you cant end up a friendship just because you hate them. They might be your roomates or classmates. It will be totally 'crickets-moment' if you guys dont talked. So, you had to befriends with her. Just a friend. Fullstop. Here, the situation had changed from 2nd to the 1st method. Its just because you have to. :(

Yet, whatever reason you becoming a friend to someone, you hold a responsibilities to help them, to care about them and always husnuzhon (think positive) about them. Let alone if they didnt do it for you. Its their problem. As for us, its our responsibilities with Allah. We are required to. Even if our friends do not appreciate us, Allah always with us. He knows what is in our heart. :)

One of my friends once quoted to me and i am rephrasing it, "Find a good companion (friends, family), as in Hereafter, you will be placed among them" To clarify more, friends are the person that can influenced you. If you befriend with someone that remind you towards Allah, alhamdulillah! But if it is vice versa, it is your responsibilities to bring them. My biggest fear is, when its my turn to cross titian sirat, one of my friend will snatched my feet and drag me for questioning session. That friend will then, ask their rights as friends for me not advising them. Nauzubillah :( Thus, we must do our responsibilities now, in this short time so that when the Judgement Day comes, we had done our responsibilities. InsyaAllah.

Just appreciate your friends. Even with the friends since your kindergarten. For some people, if you felt like you got no friends, you havent found the 'right' friend for you, the one who understands you, just be patience. :) Allah is testing you. Allah will give you a good companion, if you seek for His hidayah. Allah will never abandon us. Besides, He is always there for us if we need a friend. Allah is the One who never failed to be there, with us whenever we needed Him. Never. :)

Conclusion is simple. BE a good friend and FIND a good friend. InsyaAllah

Surah al-kahfi, ayat 28 :

Dan jadikanlah dirimu sentiasa berdamping rapat dengan orang-orang yang beribadat kepada Tuhan mereka pada waktu pagi dan petang, yang mengharapkan keredhaan Allah semata-mata dan janganlah engkau memalingkan pandanganmu daripada mereka hanya kerana engkau mahukan kesenangan hidup di dunia dan janganlah engkau mematuhi orang yang kami ketahui hatinya lalai daripada mengingati dan mematuhi pengajaran Kami di dalam Al-Quran, serta ia menurut hawa nafsunya, dan tingkah lakunya pula adalah melampaui kebenaran.

* Reminder for myself; i am not alone. :') InsyaAllah and Alhamdulillah.